I did it!!!!!  I confronted one of my biggest demons and I kicked ass!

Gomez had called his Dad last night and I asked to talk to him after they got done.  I inquired, once again (this is getting to be a weekly thing), as to if and when he mailed the child support check, seeing as how I haven't gotten it yet.

He said "It's in the mail", very defensively.

I pushed "Good.  When did you send it tho?"

Him - "Monday or Tuesday"

Me - "M'kay"

Then about an hour later he calls back and all hell broke loose.  It just wasn't the kind X was expecting. *grin*

Him -  Listen, why are you busting my balls about the child support checks?  It's not like I don't pay them.  I'm getting tired of you harrassing me about them.    (All I do is call and ask "Did you send it? When?" and the only reason I do this is because he's forgotten on more than one occasion and I need to know when to expect it so I can do my budgeting)

Me - Because you've forgotten before.  Remember the times when I've called and asked and you nervously laugh and said "I didn't get it in the mail until Thursday"?

Him - I'm supposed to pay it each week and I pay it each week.

Me - You're supposed to pay it on Friday of each week, that was our agreement.

Him -  It doesn't say in the divorce decree that the check has to be written on Friday, specifically.  It just says "weekly".

Me <----- seeing my chance to get Froggy and jump - pauses a moment to try to get nerves steady, although I was shaking like a leaf - "Hmm, you sure know that divorce decree very well, don't you?"

Him - *smugly*  Yes I do.

Me - Ok.  Fine.  You want to go letter by letter of the decree, nothing more nothing less, we'll do it that way.

Him - *backpedal fit commencing* Well ... uh ... not necessarily 

See, at this point he realized that he stupidly stepped right into the middle of something he's not going to like but can't do a damn thing about -- and can't blame anyone but himself for getting there.

Me - No no, we'll do it your way.  I went back and read over those papers, at your suggestion when we were dealing with the Dental Insurance issue.  Guess what I found.  I found that you are to pay child support each week, every week --- Regardless of whether the kids are with you or with me. 

Him - Uhhh

Me - What that means is that all those weeks they kids are with you that you haven't been paying me child support - 6 weeks in the summer, a week for spring break, a week at Christmas. etc - those weeks are history.  I'll be expecting child support checks those weeks.