I'm furious.  The child support check, which I got last Wednesday was refused at the bank.  This check was for the previous Friday, meaning not one but TWO of his paychecks have been deposited and the mutherphucker still bounced!!

I've told him that if any more checks bounced I'd turn them over to Child Support.  (I even told him to give me Money Orders from now on).  But if I do that I'll have to give them the check and I'm hoping that he'll make good on it.  That way I won't have to wait for whatever "processing" they'll do.  I want this resolved before I leave on Saturday.

He said, when I called him today, "Damn, I'd hoped you'd get that check to the bank before the others got there."  

As if this is somehow MY fault the check isn't any good? 

Then he said "Let me see what I can do and I'll call you tonight."

I'm hoping he'll call and say "Ok, I've got the money and I'll bring it tomorrow night to Gomez's concert." and I'll say "Fine.  Bring the cash for the other child support payment you owe me too."

I have this sinking feeling that he'll bail on the concert to avoid me.  And the fact that he's going to miss the last band concert of Gomez's is going to break Gomez's heart. 

Well, maybe not.  He's used to his father disappointing him.  That's sad isn't it?

What really chaps my ass is that X gets some of the benefits of parenthood without living up to his end of the responsibilities. 

*sigh*  Ok ok, I KNOW that I'm not as bad off as I could be.  I mean, it's not like he's vanished and broken the kids' hearts.  He does eventually get the child support paid.  There's moms and dads out there doing it all on their own without any help whatsoever.  So I guess I should be thankful.

But dammit, just because other parents do that, it doesn't make it right for X to do it too, does it?

I've been too damn nice for too damn long.

I'm done being nice.  The very next time this happens, and it will, I'll not call him.  I won't give him a head's up.  I won't work with him on it.  I'll simply turn it over to the Child Support Division and let them do what they do.

I'd turn his ass in now. And when hid kids find out, he needs to tell them he fucked up. I am so sorry. You don't need that shit now. And you have every right to get your damn child support in on time. It's not he's paying 3500 a month in child support.

Brass ovaries remember??? Amen to Trin too.

I say turn his @$$ in - it's guys like that, that make it harder for us dad's that do our part and want to be a parent and not just for the fun stuff.